My online "boyfriend" scammed me!
When in desperation we fool ourselves.
Alice is 33. And, she has been trying to find love. As we are the first generation to do online dating, she was a bit reluctant at the beginning. But after everyone's insistence, she gave it a go.
At first, she met a guy she was over the moon for, they had gone on the perfect date, but, for some reason, that didn't work out. She deleted the app and froze the idea of online dating for a few months. After two months of dealing with that initial disappointment, she gave it a go again. This time she convinced herself she had to be open and meet new people but also work on not being judgemental, a challenging task when online dating for sure. In the first couple of days, someone stood up from the herd of guys who were interested in her.
He was open and charming, a bit intense for her taste, but she convinced herself that it was only because he was a very determined man, and he knew what he wanted. After two days of chatting on "the dating app," the things escalated, they exchanged numbers, and they moved to WhatsApp.
After two weeks, they were acting like a couple. Bear in mind they had never met in person because he lives in Las Vegas, and she lives in LA. He decided to visit her. The first couple of days, everything went smoothly, but on the third day, he went to the bank, came back, and said something was wrong with his credit card, so he asked Alice for 5,000 dollars. He promised her to pay the money back the day after. He was going to stay in LA for ten days, so there was no worry on her side; he wouldn't payback.
He did stay in LA for ten days, but as soon as he set foot on the plane, he changed. He turned into a mean man, reactive, and now he was evasive. Although Alice fooled herself, she never fell for the guy, she made herself believe she loved him, but now looking back, she admits she didn't or even liked the guy. He disappeared with the money, and a free holiday in LA.
Although she asked him to pay her back on multiple occasions, he never did. Alice, four months after the incident, still doesn't understand how she fell for that guy, nor how she was so naive to lend some money to a stranger. When in desperation, our emotions rule us. Alice wanted to fall in love. She wanted to feel loved. She told me she had found THE guy. Hey, we all want to find OUR guy, and we all have to trust someone at some point, but follow your gut, and don't give it a go with someone you have doubts about, because trust me, life will make sure those doubts turn into manifests.
With love,
Rebeka.