Why women in big cities can't find LOVE?
You feel some sort of anxiety without being totally anxious when you think about never finding the right person for you. “What if I end up alone?” The what-if question that makes most humans shit our pants. Love, although you may believe is an act of faith, is also an act of luck. If you live in a big city, let's say London, NY, Miami, Mexico City or LA, well, the somewhat called "luck" reduces significantly. So it may not be that there's something wrong with you, but more so where you are located.
Reason No. 1: Women are busier
To begin with, women tend to be busier in big cities; we are all caught up with jobs, shopping, gym, and social commitments. Nowadays, we believe being busy is the new "sexy", although it looks like you are tougher to get, in big cities, there are also more women, more competition. So if your strategy is playing hard to get, be careful, try not to play too hard that is actually impossible for a man to get you.
Reason No. 2: Dating is not a priority
With this hectic -or not so hectic- life you live, make sure you don't leave dating at the bottom of your extensive list of priorities. It's statistically proven that women in trendy cities have prioritized other things, -but finding love-, like: Working or studying, spending time with friends or even social media.
I mean f*cking social media, we rather be behind our screens counting our likes, or looking at other people amazing lives than actually being out there meeting new people. It may be easier to grab our phones and scroll on them, but it's not helpful. If dating is not a preference of yours, you shouldn't expect meaningful results in return.
“Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.”
Reason No. 3: There's more competition, and you are tired
And the third reason why it is tougher to find love in buzzing places, it's because the competition is higher if it's not you, guys may think they will meet someone else around the corner. Although that might be true, that's not love. And, online dating doesn't make it easier. Even if you pick a guy just by swiping right or left, that doesn't mean it is love, it might be sex, but love is not sex, sex is part of love. You have to put energy into falling in love.
I know it can be exhausting, and maybe you are consumed by the idea, but men will notice if you have given up. Don't give up, don't show up in yoga pants on a date with an attitude, be open, stay open, and hang in there. Be you, put effort into it, but above all, enjoy the ride.
With love,
Xxo
Rebeka