What makes our problems, problems? The actual situation, or what we think of the situation? Maybe both, maybe at times what we believe is a problem is not actually one, but we perceive it as such, or maybe yes it's a terrible situation that requires your full attention. Either or, why do we believe that thinking compulsively about the problem or the possible solution, is going to make it better?

Uff, and we particularly love to scrutinize the situations that make us feel uncomfortable. As we don't know how to deal with uncomfortable emotions like embarrassment, regret, jealousy or anger, we believe if we put 500 hours extra hours of attention to "the problem" it will actually make us feel better.

I quit my job a couple of months back, and at times I faced deeply uncomfortable emotions like self-doubt. I noticed, when I didn't manage to control that emotion that made me feel vulnerable, I would start to over-analyze, every single outcome involving, -me quitting my job. "Am I going to work again? Did I make the right decision? Am I, stupid? Was my decision, impulsive? And soooooo on...

We are continually bombarding our minds with thoughts and hearts with emotions. We have never been taught to create space between our mind and heart. Think of this for a minute, how many times have you thought of an outcome, and it actually turns out to be as you thought it would. I can guarantee you very rarely, if not never. And if it did come out as you thought it would or as you desired, it's because you allowed it to be.

The reason we compulsively think about our problems is because we cannot deal with uncertainty. We rather have an illusion of an outcome than nothing at all. But truth is we need that vacuum, that gap is healthy.

Not knowing what tomorrow will bring, or what you will be doing in a week, a month or a year is a great thing. When you are not attached to any outcome, when you are not fixated to the result, you open your path to unlimited possibilities.

I have come to learn that not knowing exactly what's going to happen tomorrow, or the day after, or the day after that is one of the biggest and most rewarding lessons I have come to encounter in life. It means im focused on the now. The commitment to the now will give me greater joy in the future, because that’s where my energy lay.

I'm not saying quit your job, turn into a hippie and just wander without attachment, far from it! Work hard for what you want, work hard for the desired result, but don't fixate and waste your energy over one particular outcome, let your hard work evolve before your eyes, without controlling it. Embrace the feeling of not knowing how exactly tomorrow, next year, next month will pan out. Then things will begin to pan out as you want, as long as you commit to what you are doing today.

With love,

Rebeka.